Comments on: Control Freak

By: Jenni Catron

Jenni Catron — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:09:22 +0000

@Ron – great questions! Yes, I love Strengths Finder and I think you can see some themes from my strengths in my tendency to control. Two of my strengths are achiever & focus and I think the need to achieve and the focus I put towards whatever I’m doing cause me to want to control the outcome. Do I carry this over into my marriage? Great, tough question. I’ll let you ask my husband this the next time you see him. But honestly, this is something I’m very sensitive to. This has come up before because people assume that since I’m so dominant in work/ministry that I must “wear the pants” at home. My husband is quick to nip that perception. He is also a very strong, personality with great leadership skills so I don’t think I could control him if I wanted to.

By: Jenni Catron

Jenni Catron — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:02:30 +0000

@Cheri – I can relate with you on so many points! Yes, I am controlling when I’m too hurried. I default to task rather than people. Can I steal that phrase “ruthlessly eliminating hurry from my life”? Hope you’re enjoying your summer!

By: Jenni Catron

Jenni Catron — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 13:00:41 +0000

@B_rewster – you make a great point too – you have to know your staff to know how clear, detailed you need to be in giving direction. For one staff member this is perceived as controlling for another it provides clarity that motivates them.

By: Jenni Catron

Jenni Catron — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 12:56:43 +0000

@Brian – you always have great analogies!

By: Jenni Catron

Jenni Catron — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 12:55:34 +0000

@Dad – you’ve always modeled a great balance of this. I’ve never seen you be too controlling (personally or professionally). You give clear direction and lots of trust – very empowering. Thanks for modeling great leadership for me!

By: Jenni Catron

Jenni Catron — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 12:53:18 +0000

@Nate – I hope everything goes smoothly for you guys this weekend. You make a great point that your volunteers will feel very valued with the trust that you have placed in them.

By: Nate

Nate — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 14:50:07 +0000

Wow this is tough.

Interestingly enough, while not exactly on the same trail, I had a situation recently that’s in the same ballpark.

This week I’ve been working on planning out some massive changes in our kids programming that will be taking place this weekend (our normal Liquid Kids areas have been rented out for another function, so we have to use the movie theater next door).

There are huge logistical hurdles to jump, and I’ve been working hard to make sure that everything is in place for Sunday.

Unfortunately, I work at our other campus.

Being a control freak, I naturally want to be onsite for this weekend. But I have to be at the campus I work at.

I just have to trust that our volunteers will have everything under control. After all, I was a volunteer once too, and I know how good it feels to be trusted with big tasks like these.

By: Dad

Dad — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 20:36:09 +0000

You coundn’t be more correct, and all the comments are great. The fact that you recognize this makes you the leader you are. A great leader surrounds themself with other great people. The stronger the force around you the better and easier your job is. Your job as the leader is to keep everyone going in the same direction while letting them perform on there own. Keep up the great job, you know how proud I am of you.

By: Brian Dishon

Brian Dishon — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 18:58:15 +0000

Jenni,

You are right my friend. My simple point I make often with team is – let’s argue and agree on goal, then how you get there is up to you, but know if you miss, not all will be fun. This is my little 2+2 rule I use to manage a team. There is an infinate amount of ways to arrive at the answer 4, none of them more correct than the other, some perhaps more slow, but not more correct. So in managing I like to focus on the correct result (4) and then help guide the appropriate way to get to 4. I might be as simple as 2+2, however John over there might be 9-5, same # of steps, easy to get to and just as correct. If I mandate 2+2 is the way to get to 4 that causes frustration, bitterness, lack of desire. But letting them know you are OK with their bizarre Square Root of 16 method at arriving at 4 empowers them and teaches them to think on their own and develop their own path which will lead to consistent success over a period of time.

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:11:38 +0000

I agree COMPLETELY!!!! I have had the privilege of working WITH (not under) great leaders, and UNDER (not with) leaders that THOUGHT they were great. This is what I have learned:

Great leaders are humble and know that they are not great at every aspect of leadership, so they hire others that cover the areas they are weak in to make a strong whole. Then they let them lead and bring them a long side, accepting that their staff has wisdom they do not have, when planning directions of the company. They are not intimidated by other great leaders.
They also realize that their MAIN PURPOSE is to be a servant to those under them (as Jesus was), not to “lead” as the world defines leadership.

Good for you for putting this out there!! I hope that other leaders will read this and gain wisdom from your openness!